There are people who automatically blame others for their failure. These people find someone else to blame and in fact, blame everyone else â€“ except for themselves. My parents raised me wrongly, my classmates bullied me, my professors duped me into believing something false, my colleagues ganged up on me and so on. On the other end of the spectrum, there are people who always take the blame upon themselves. I did it. This happened because of me. I didnâ€™t do enough thatâ€™s why I failed. As you can see, both points of view are quite extreme and probably not healthy.
Yet what Chris Sandberg shares in his blog kind of struck a chord within me. He shares:
A few weeks ago at Russell Brunsonâ€™s 12 Month Internet Millionaire Workshop, one of the speakers said something to the effect of: if you are not successful itâ€™s all your fault. This implies that you have control over your future, meaning that if you really are not successful you have the control to change it. Success doesnâ€™t happen immediately but by taking control of your life and taking the actions necessary to become successful, you will become successful.
I get his point â€“ we may not have control over all the circumstances that we encounter but we do have control regarding how we behave and how we react. Seen from this point of view, then it should follow that we can all be successful â€“ it just depends on how we handle the situation. What are your thoughts on this?